Each year, the world dedicates a day to reflect on the incredible power of women leaders and the influence they wield. This year it was March 8th – International Women’s day. This photo, taken during a go-kart racing adventure in Lyon, France, over 8 years ago, perfectly captures a memorable moment with my colleague from the Regulatory Compliance team. Our team-building event felt far more daring than anything you’d find on American soil—seriously, do they even allow go-karting in the States without a safety briefing that includes a therapist’s number? In the picture, I look like a deer caught in headlights, while she exudes a confidence that could probably win the Olympics.
Our group was about 20 strong, with only five of us being women. Some of the younger men, seasoned veterans of this racing escapade, were ready to zoom ahead. But my friend? Unfazed. Her confident grin before the race was a prelude to victory—she won not once but multiple times! And when she didn’t take the gold, another young woman from our team did. It was a glorious moment that sent my heart racing faster than the karts. I felt like I was 16 again, filled with joy and a hint of embarrassment for my enthusiasm.
To add a sprinkle of irony, I found myself downplaying our victories, showering excessive praise on the impressive maneuvers of the young men. “Wow, did you see that turn?” I exclaimed, as if I were their personal cheerleader. “And oh my gosh, how did I pass everyone? Must have been beginner’s luck!” Sure, as leaders, we strive to make everyone feel valued and included. But looking back, I can’t help but wonder if I was a little too muted in celebrating the wins of my female teammates. Did I give them enough spotlight? Did I really need to make the men feel like champions too?
Here’s the kicker: uplifting women doesn’t require knocking men down a peg or ensuring everyone gets the same level of recognition. A woman can win, and a man can lose—it’s not a zero-sum game!
Now, let’s translate this into the office. Imagine a meeting where a female colleague presents a stellar idea that propels the project forward. Instead of merely nodding along and praising the men who contributed, why not spotlight her contribution? A simple acknowledgment such as, “This idea was outstanding, and it’s thanks to Susan that we’re on this path to success!” can make a world of difference.
Encouraging a culture where everyone’s achievements are celebrated equally fosters an environment of collaboration and confidence. When women see their contributions recognized, it empowers them to take risks, speak up, and lead initiatives. Conversely, when men see women being celebrated, it reinforces the idea that success in the workplace isn’t about competition but rather about collective achievement.
Perhaps acknowledging my role in the perpetual cycle of women feeling undervalued in the workplace begins with a small act of my own. From now on, I’m committed to simply congratulating the winner, regardless of gender, and moving on—because let’s face it, life’s too short to play second fiddle in the game of recognition! So, here’s to celebrating victories—big or small, male or female—and embracing the joy of success without the guilt. Cheers to that!